How to Think Like a Roman Emperor
If you have anger issues, this one is a great tool (h/t mindyourbusiness)
This week’s book:
Discourses and Selected Writings
Disclaimer: I’m not your Supervisor. These are my opinions after reading through these books a few times.
Epictetus was born a slave around 50 ad. His owner was Epaphroditus, a rich freedman who was once a slave of Nero. Though he was a slave Epictetus was sent to study philosophy under Musonius Rufus.
Epictetus was lame and there are some stories it was caused by his master and others that it was caused by disease.
He was a freedman when all philosophers were banished from Rome in 89 by the Emperor Domitian. He then started his school in Greece, and had many students. He did not leave any writings from his lessons, but one of his students, Flavius Arrian, took notes and wrote the Discourses.
Epictetus did not marry, had no children, and lived to be around 80-85. In retirement, he adopted a child that would have been abandoned and raised him with a woman.
He died sometime around AD 135.
He is my favorite Stoic teacher. I love his bare bones and very straight forward approach.
Following is a paragraph-by-paragraph discussion of one of his lessons. Epictetus’s text appears italicized in bold, my replies are in normal text.
Against the Contentious and Brutal
The good and excellent man neither contends with anyone, nor, as far as he has the power, does he allow others to contend. We have an example before us of this also, as well as of everything else, in the life of Socrates, who did not merely himself avoid contention upon every occasion, but tried to prevent others as well from contending. See in Xenophon’s Symposium how many contentions he has resolved, and again how patient he was with Thrasymachus, Polus, and Callicles,[1] and habitually so with his wife, and also with his son when the latter tried to confute him with sophistical arguments.[2]
This is something I have become better at as I have gotten older. Arguing with others is generally a waste of time. It is easy to get sucked into arguments online whether as a participant or just an observer. I don’t mind discussing things and my favorite strategy is to just ask questions and let the other person explain how their ideas would really work. I don’t engage in this often, but when it works it is amazing.
For Socrates bore very firmly in mind that no one is master over another’s governing principle. He willed, accordingly, nothing but what was his own. 5And what is that? [Not to try to make other people act[3]] in accordance with nature, for that does not belong to one; but, while they are attending to their own business as they think best, himself none the less to be and to remain in a state of harmony with nature, attending only to his own business, to the end that they also may be in harmony with nature. For this is the object which the good and excellent man has ever before him. To become praetor? No; but if this be given him, to maintain his own governing principle in these circumstances. To marry? No; but if marriage be given him, to maintain himself as one who in these circumstances is in harmony with nature. But if he wills that his son or his wife make no mistake, he wills that what is not his own should cease to be not his own. And to be getting an education means this: To be learning what is your own, and what is not your own.
I am having a hard time remembering that things outside of my control should not upset me. My father in law died this weekend, but what is bothering me is the fact my wife is dealing with it by herself. There is sibling arguments and she has wound up wearing herself out doing too much work cleaning the house and feeling in the middle of the arguments. She has been so busy and tired I haven’t talked to her in a few days. Today she was finally able to talk to me for almost an hour today. I know it’s bad because she said her brother and sister were “pissing her off”. For her this is extremely strong language. All I can do is to listen to her and let her vent. She did say she felt better after talking to me, so that helps me feel a little useful.
Where, then, is there any longer room for contention, if a man is in such a state? Why, he is not filled with wonder at anything that happens, is he? Does anything seem strange to him? Does he not expect worse and harsher treatment from the wicked than actually befalls him? Does he not count it as gain whenever they fail to go to the limit? “So-and-so reviled you.” I am greatly obliged to him for not striking me. “Yes, but he struck you too.” I am greatly obliged to him for not wounding me. “Yes, but he wounded you too,” I am greatly obliged to him for not killing me.
I try to remember this advice. Things that do not actually harm me are only as big as I let them be. If I let them control my reactions, then I make them harm me. Sitting around feeling upset because of what my wife is dealing with does not help me or her. It would have been easy to tell my wife that her sister was being mean and her brother was overreacting, but that would accomplish nothing.
My father in law died this weekend, but what is bothering me is the fact my wife is dealing with it by herself.
Sorry.
Sorry Ron.
“She did say she felt better after talking to me…”
You’re a good man, Ron. Sometimes that’s all people need, to know that someone else cares.
So, so true.
My condolences to you and your family Ron.
I’m assuming she’s thinking “mukatsuku”. A common translation is “pissed off” in English. But my Japanese friends rarely use this word and when they do it conveys strong dissatisfaction and unhappiness. Much more than when we say we are pissed a cashier gave us the wrong change and we didn’t notice. It’s one where culturally I think the English is different compared Japanese.
No, she means it in the American sense.
Condolences on your FIL.
With regard to your wife, I don’t know how her relationship is with her siblings, but when my mom was in the hospital and both my brothers came to town, we had a blowup that lasted about 3 days, mostly directed at me. We never do this.
BUT we also a presented a united front against Cunty Aunts and Mom’s asshole PCP, and we did it without even thinking about it. Where one fell down, another picked up. Cool-headed Bro #1 did his thing when necessary. Hot-headed Bro #2 did his thing when necessary. I made sure they got deployed at the appropriate times.
When it all shook out, we came to the conclusion that I was just collateral damage because I was there and safe and I probably deserved whatever.
Anyway, if she and her siblings are usually on good terms, this conflict is stress-induced and will settle after everything’s over with. A death and planning a funeral is EXTREMELY stressful, and then there will be the estate to settle. This is normal.
Hiwever, if she’s in the middle of the others’ infighting, she needs to step back and let them at it. She’s not responsible for their feelings or grudges.
My husband couldn’t do anything for me, either, except let me vent without speaking or offering advice, running errands, being Boy Friday. That was IMMENSELY helpful. Don’t try to make her rest. She’s running around doing stuff because it takes her mind off the more unpleasant things.
Step back, be available, run little errands, hug her a lot, play with her hair if she likes that. I swear, I would’ve killed for my husband to say, “Sit,” and then comb out and play with my hair.
Thanks, it doesn’t sound too serious, but my wife never uses that kind of language, so it might be worse than she lets on.
On the bright side, she’s coming home Monday night.
On the down side, I have to clean the house this weekend.
Doing a top shelf job cleaning the house will probably be one of the best things you can do for her. Even if she doesn’t particularly notice how clean the house is, the fact that she doesn’t notice anything that “she needs to do” around the house will be a Good Thing.
What RC said. I’ll also add, make sure there is food in the fridge, maybe do some meal prep and have a few things ready to reheat. I recall my wife getting home from travel one time, exhausted and hangry, and there being nothing ready in the fridge. That wasn’t pleasant.
If it was daytime I always took Missus Fourscore to a restaurant. Relax after the plane ride, eat, take a nap on the ride home.
Late, she took her nap on the way home, eat when we got there.
She just took a trip to AZ, said it was her last one. Everything is difficult, needs a wheel chair when she changes planes, etc
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The Trump administration has been highly critical of tech companies’ efforts to police what people are allowed to post on their platforms and of the broader field of trust and safety, the tech industry’s term for teams that focus on preventing abuse, fraud, illegal content, and other harmful behavior online.
More Trumpista retribution against those who would protect us from hate speech and lies.
“I’m alarmed that trust and safety work is being conflated with ‘censorship’,” said Alice Goguen Hunsberger
And I’m alarmed that censorship is being conflated with trust and safety work.
First Amendment experts criticized the memo’s guidance as itself a potential violation of free speech rights.
“People who study misinformation and work on content-moderation teams aren’t engaged in ‘censorship’— they’re engaged in activities that the First Amendment was designed to protect. This policy is incoherent and unconstitutional,” said Carrie DeCell, senior staff attorney and legislative advisor at the Knight First Amendment Institute at Columbia University, in a statement.
Wow talk about missing the plot.
People who study misinformation
Censor-wannabes.
Apparently you need to be very stoic about the World Cup draw as all of the DRAMA is bring relentlessly drawn out with endless attention whoring.
Yeah, I opened the live-ticker on the German site kicker, and it’s been close to 90 minutes from the start of the ceremony to Brazil being the first non-host team to be placed in the draw.
U.S. and Paraguay, Australia, and now the winner of the playoff series between Turkey, Romania, Slovakia, and Kosovo.
My condolences to you and your family as well. It’s never an easy thing.
Swalwell has competition for being a Chinese lackey!
That story has been going on for a while.
https://nypost.com/2025/11/18/us-news/alleged-china-mole-linda-suns-lavish-life-in-3-6m-mansion-revealed-during-bombshell-trial/
Just a tireless public servant in a mansion with a Ferrari, Patek Phillipe and the ever popular Birkin bag.
And sadly an failing wine store and seafood business in which to launder the funds.
https://nypost.com/2024/09/03/us-news/ex-hochul-and-cuomo-aide-enjoyed-4m-mansion-and-other-luxury-gifts-from-double-life-as-chinese-agent-feds/
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FedEx – Says it’ll be here today, but tracking hasn’t updated since 5:30pm yesterday in Memphis.
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In my neck of the woods, FedEx is always late by a day from their own estimate and UPS is always a day earlier than their estimate.
This is interesting. HT Neal Asher 😉
The battle is now joined. The EU is trying to fine X hundreds of millions. Congress and the President better respond in a big way,
https://x.com/prestonjbyrne/status/1996703098610631071
Immediate withdrawal from NATO!
Sounds good.
Sorry about your FIL Ron.
Condolences here too, for the loss and the situation.
A post late, but my condolences to you as well. I appreciate these weekly posts.
I missed out on the morning news… but the indictment of the J6 bomber seems… thin.
My biggest unanswered question is: a bomb planted the night before with a 60 minute kitchen timer? This makes zero sense.
From the indictment, the “he bought this stuff” could apply to half of us. Over 2 years he buys 6 sections of galvanized pipe and end caps. Various times and places.
Nothing about black powder or other actual bomb stuff.
They seem to have 60% of probable cause. Probably enough to get a friendly judge to sign off on the arrest. But still thin.
Heck, several of us would have bought the rest of the stuff over that period, plus we would have black powder at home.
This fine site came up with an explanatory
conspiracytheory that extend out from the rumor that the black powder was homemade.The timers went off, bomb no go boom.
It was reported he used credit cards for his purchases. It would not surprise me if the chain of custody for the specific timers used was available and it could be proved that he purchased specific (at least to lot level) timers at a specific store.
https://www.cnn.com/2025/12/05/politics/supreme-court-agrees-to-hear-birthright
Supreme Court agrees to decide if Trump may end birthright citizenship
The Supreme Court agreed Friday to decide if President Donald Trump’s attempt to end birthright citizenship with an executive order is constitutional, offering the justices an opportunity to revisit what has widely been considered settled law since the 19th Century.
By granting the appeal, the court is directly taking on the merits of a controversy that it largely avoided earlier this year, when it sided with Trump on technical grounds dealing with how the challenges to the policy were handled by lower courts.
This should be entertaining.
If by “entertaining” you mean interesting arguments made by some justices, and the others blathering about “this is how I feel it should be because equity”, then yes.
The battle is now joined. The EU is trying to fine X hundreds of millions. Congress and the President better respond in a big way
From my AM link:
The document, with a signed introduction by Trump, says Europe is in economic decline but its “real problems are even deeper”, including “activities of the EU that undermine political liberty and sovereignty, migration policies that are transforming the continent, censorship of free speech and suppression of political opposition … and loss of national identities”.
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The policy document, released by the White House late on Thursday, underscores the Trump administration’s clear alignment with Europe’s far-right nationalist parties, whose policies centre on attacking supposed EU overreach and excessive non-EU migration.
In language that will appear extraordinary to close allies, it says the US should “stand up for genuine democracy, freedom of expression and unapologetic celebrations of European nations’ individual character and history”, adding that Washington “encourages its political allies in Europe to promote this revival of spirit”.
A shot across the bow?
Any one else see the ad where our dignified president is hawking cheap wristwatches? What’s next? Toothpaste? Butt and boob deodorant?
Better than cryptocurrency over which he has regulatory influence… oh wait.
Now let’s do Team Blue and green boondoggles.
“Do you stink like a Democrat? Use the deodorant the best MAGA men use and rejoin polite society. I might even let you ride on Air Force One. Don’t fight it! Switch to the winning team and deport your foul odors!”
Trump Doctrine
The document released Friday by the White House is sure to roil long-standing U.S. allies in Europe for its scathing critiques of their migration and free speech policies, suggesting they face the “prospect of civilizational erasure” and raising doubts about their long-term reliability as American partners.
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The strategy reinforces, in sometimes chilly and bellicose terms, Trump’s “America First” philosophy, which favors nonintervention overseas, questions decades of strategic relationships and prioritizes U.S. interests.
The U.S. strategy “is motivated above all by what works for America — or, in two words, ‘America First,'” the document said.
This is the first national security strategy, a document the administration is required by law to release, since the Republican president’s return to office in January. It is a stark break from the course set by President Joe Biden’s Democratic administration, which sought to reinvigorate alliances after many were rattled in Trump’s first term and to check a more assertive Russia.
Democratic Rep. Jason Crow of Colorado, who sits on House committees overseeing intelligence and the armed forces, called the strategy “catastrophic to America’s standing in the world and a retreat from our alliances and partnerships.”
Oh, no. The Eurocrats will be offended.
What is so controversial about an American President considering America’s interests first?
Any one else see the ad where our dignified president is hawking cheap wristwatches?
Do they run backwards?
Love to know where the watch movements are made.
China, Japan and Switzerland are basically 1,2 and 3 in production from memory. However those companies may have factories elsewhere in Asia.
Mine is the Epson VS43 solar movement with day/date, I think made in Japan.
“Japanese assembled”
So that likely means with mostly Chinese components…
https://www.esslinger.com/epson-japanese-solar-3-hand-quartz-watch-movement-vs43-day-and-date-at-3-00-overall-height-5-7mm/?srsltid=AfmBOoqh9P8rww67KKovZRY_UyJpyMBsjsq5bqqlJjumKeXVuRg-Nmya
“Hecho in China”
完璧
What is this? Some tools for ants?!!?
https://a.co/d/0p7pK2J
Show little backbone, willya?
Germany’s parliament, the Bundestag, has voted to introduce voluntary military service, in a move aimed at boosting national defences after Russia’s full-scale invasion of Ukraine.
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Many young Germans either oppose the new law or are sceptical.
“We don’t want to spend half a year of our lives locked up in barracks, being trained in drill and obedience and learning to kill,” the organisers of the protests wrote in a statement posted on social media.
“War offers no prospects for the future and destroys our livelihoods.”
Little pig, little pig, let me in.
Maybe THIS will finally wake up the young people.
All those illegal aliens are sure as shit not going to fight for you.
Just remember that Trump has no idea how the international order works.
https://www.reuters.com/article/world/trump-calls-germany-captive-of-russia-demands-higher-defence-spending-idUSKBN1K032Z/
This basically aged like milk for Germany.
German MPs voted by 323 votes to 272 to back the change, making their country the latest European country to launch some form of revised military service.
Last month, France said it was introducing 10 months of voluntary military training for 18- and 19-year-olds.
The government says military service will be voluntary for as long as possible, but from July 2027, all 18-year-old men will have to take a medical exam to assess their fitness for possible military service.
Universal medical examinations were necessary, Defence Minister Boris Pistorius said, so that in the event of an attack, Germany would not waste time determining “who is operationally capable as a homeland protector and who is not”.
“If der Fatherland calls, tell him I’m out.”
Hahahaha!
Boy is that gonna backfire. Same in France. Not a single alien will come to those countries defense, they will all flee back home. And the kids are all miquetoast at best.