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Disclaimer: I’m not your Supervisor. These are my opinions after reading through these books a few times.

April 23

“You have been formed of three parts—body, breath, and mind. Of these, the first two are yours insofar as they are only in your care. The third alone is truly yours.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 12.3

I had this drilled into me as I went through surgery, then post surgery infection, and now as I have started running again. As long as I understand these facts and do my best without getting upset at the fact that my best is pretty weak right now, I can control my mind. If I keep doing this until it becomes second nature, I will control my mind as long as I have breath. That is the goal anyway. Sometimes, I’m not sure my mind really belongs to me, but that is an excuse not to do the right thing and instead do the easy thing.

 

April 24

“Just as when meat or other foods are set before us we think, this is a dead fish, a dead bird or pig; and also, this fine wine is only the juice of a bunch of grapes, this purple-edged robe just sheep’s wool dyed in a bit of blood from a shellfish; or of sex, that it is only rubbing private parts together followed by a spasmic discharge—in the same way our impressions grab actual events and permeate them, so we see them as they really are.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.13

I don’t think he is saying to not enjoy fine food or sex, he is reminding himself what they really are, so there is less compulsion to chase them or overindulge. I can still love to eat good food, but if I had to survive on plainer fare, I would survive and not overreact.

 

 

April 25

“If anyone can prove and show to me that I think and act in error, I will gladly change it—for I seek the truth, by which no one has ever been harmed. The one who is harmed is the one who abides in deceit and ignorance.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.21

I have a compulsive need to be correct. I don’t mean that what I say or believe is always correct, but I have to KNOW that I am speaking the truth. If there is a better argument, I can be convinced. The problem is, everyone believes this. I try really hard to follow this, as I know far too many people that will deny truth if it makes their “team” look bad. I cannot handle cognitive dissonance in myself and in other people, I struggle not to let it drive me insane.

 

April 26

“When your sparring partner scratches or head-butts you, you don’t then make a show of it, or protest, or view him with suspicion or as plotting against you. And yet you keep an eye on him, not as an enemy or with suspicion, but with a healthy avoidance. You should act this way with all things in life. We should give a pass to many things with our fellow trainees. For, as I’ve said, it’s possible to avoid without suspicion or hate.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.20

When working with other people, sometimes mistakes are made. I have always tried to handle honest mistakes in an honest manner. I have also made mistakes, but I have never been afraid to point the finger at myself and admit where I screwed up. If someone makes a mistake and it hurts me, I try to take it in stride and move forward without dwelling on what happened. I am not always successful, but usually it’s not a problem.

 

April 27

“Turn it inside out and see what it is like—what it becomes like when old, sick, or prostituting itself. How short-lived the praiser and praised, the one who remembers and the remembered. Remembered in some corner of these parts, and even there not in the same way by all, or even by one. And the whole earth is but a mere speck.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 8.21

When something is bothering me or hanging over my head, this exercise is useful. When I was waiting to see if I needed surgery again, I went through what that would mean and what the various outcomes could be. I also reminded myself that this was a very minor problem compared to other people I know. I thought I had my mind ready for any possibility, but when the urologist said there was no need for another operation, I realized that I was still pretty stressed because I could feel the tension leaving me.

 

 

April 28

“Tantalus: The highest power is—

Thyestes: No power, if you desire nothing.”
—SENECA, THYESTES, 440

This is true, but I still desire to live my life up to a certain standard, so I go to work everyday. It is important to remember this is a self created problem and understand that if I lose everything, it will not end me or my wife. As long as I realize this and am OK with it, it gives me more freedom than if I felt I had to keep this job No Matter What.

 

 

April 29

“Watch the stars in their courses and imagine yourself running alongside them. Think constantly on the changes of the elements into each other, for such thoughts wash away the dust of earthly life.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 7.47

This is a reminder that I am not important outside of my tiny sphere of influence. When the world doesn’t comport itself within my desires, I need to ask “Why should it? Who do I think I am?” It is frustrating to realize this, but if I can’t control something, I am wasting valuable time and energy getting upset about it.

 

 

Music this week is one of my favorite bands, Eluveitie (pronounced el-VAY-tee), they are a folk metal band from Switzerland. I first heard them about 5 years ago when Larry Correia said on his blog that this was his song of triumph when he finished a book. It took a long time to get used to his voice, but the music was so different and really good that I kept listening to it.

Then I bought their CD’s, one a month, until I had them all. Some people say all their songs sound the same, but maybe I’m a simple guy?

I really like all of them, and there are too many good songs to pick from (In my opinion, which is objectively right), but their latest one is actually my favorite:

Rebirth

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