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Disclaimer: Iโ€™m not your Supervisor. These are my opinions after reading through these books a few times.

Feb 19

โ€œRemember to conduct yourself in life as if at a banquet. As something being passed around comes to you, reach out your hand and take a moderate helping. Does it pass you by? Donโ€™t stop it. It hasnโ€™t yet come? Donโ€™t burn in desire for it, but wait until it arrives in front of you. Act this way with children, a spouse, toward position, with wealthโ€”one day it will make you worthy of a banquet with the gods.โ€
โ€”EPICTETUS, ENCHIRIDION, 15

I used to remind myself to be patient. I figured eventually I would get a nice house with a garage full of tools. I married at 22 and my wife didn’t work, this delayed my achievement of these things. In keeping with the banquet metaphor, I filled my plate with prime rib, so I didn’t have room for dessert. Now I have 90% of what I wanted and am very happy with that. If I had agonized over my poorness when I was younger, I might have alienated my wife and not be in the position I am today.

 

Feb 20

โ€œRobbers, perverts, killers, and tyrantsโ€”gather for your inspection their so-called pleasures!โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.34

It’s not easy to live controlled by impulse.ย  I have had a few opportunities to cheat on my wife, but I know following that impulse would ruin my life and destroy my wife and it’s not even close to being worth it. I have had many dumb friends that would have sex with anything that walks. That is not a good way to go through life.

Feb 21

โ€œRemember that itโ€™s not only the desire for wealth and position that debases and subjugates us, but also the desire for peace, leisure, travel, and learning. It doesnโ€™t matter what the external thing is, the value we place on it subjugates us to another . . . where our heart is set, there our impediment lies.โ€
โ€”EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 4.4.1โ€“2; 15

If I don’t have balance in life, something will control me. It would be very easy for me to sit on the couch all the time and enjoy myself that way, or start buying more pie and eating one everyday. Neither of these actions would improve my life and would objectively make it worse. Even something that is supposed to improve my life, like running and going to the gym could become an obsession that ruins my relationship with my wife, if I let it control me.

 

Feb 22

โ€œCato practiced the kind of public speech capable of moving the masses, believing proper political philosophy takes care like any great city to maintain the warlike element. But he was never seen
practicing in front of others, and no one ever heard him rehearse a speech. When he was told that people blamed him for his silence, he replied, โ€˜Better they not blame my life. I begin to speak only when Iโ€™m certain what Iโ€™ll say isnโ€™t better left unsaid.โ€™โ€
โ€”PLUTARCH, CATO THE YOUNGER, 4

This is one thing I am good at. I don’t talk much and try really hard not to add unnecessary noise to a discussion. I noticed a long time ago that while Marines were swapping stories, most guys were just biding their time until they could tell their story and not listening to whoever was talking.

 

Feb 23

โ€œYou shouldnโ€™t give circumstances the power to rouse anger, for they donโ€™t care at all.โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 7.38

I try to remember this one when I get angry at my medical condition. I am getting physically better, and am now struggling with the realization that I am severely out of shape. I like to tell myself “nobody cares” when I feel like complaining, either to myself or at work. I do vent to my wife, but I know she actually cares and wants me to get better.

 

Feb 24

โ€œKeep in mind that it isnโ€™t the one who has it in for you and takes a swipe that harms you, but rather the harm comes from your own belief about the abuse. So when someone arouses your anger, know that itโ€™s really your own opinion fueling it. Instead, make it your first response not to be carried away by such impressions, for with time and distance self-mastery is more easily achieved.โ€
โ€”EPICTETUS, ENCHIRIDION, 20

This used to be a problem for me. I was bullied in junior high, so in high school I over compensated by being willing to fight over the slightest insult. When I was 21, my Japanese fiancee (now wife) came to America for the first time. We went out to eat and some guy at the bar saw her and yelled”Ching chang chong” in an exaggerated accent. My wife had to really talk me down, I was ready to beat his ass. I let what that racist did ruin my entire evening and could have wound up in jail if I actually fought him. I did more damage to myself and her than he ever could have done. I cannot imagine a scenario now where some stranger’s comment could make me react the same way today.

 

Feb 25

โ€œKeep a list before your mind of those who burned with anger and resentment about something, of even the most renowned for success, misfortune, evil deeds, or any special distinction. Then ask yourself, how did that work out? Smoke and dust, the stuff of simple myth trying to be legend . . .โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 12.27

Anger can be a fuel, but it is not a health long term one. I use it sometimes when I don’t want to run by reminding myself how much I hate feeling fat and out of shape. It will get me off the couch, but I wouldn’t want to run angry. I like to listen to music and enjoy my run.

 

Excellent running music.

But you have to be careful, it might make you want to burn down the neighborhood across the highway.