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Disclaimer: I’m not your Supervisor. These are my opinions after reading through these books a few times.

 

March 05

“So, concerning the things we pursue, and for which we vigorously exert ourselves, we owe this consideration—either there is nothing useful in them, or most aren’t useful. Some of them are superfluous, while others aren’t worth that much. But we don’t discern this and see them as free, when they cost us dearly.”
—SENECA, MORAL LETTERS, 42.6

Everything has a cost, even if I don’t see it. I can afford my current lifestyle, and mostly enjoy my job, so it feels free. Is what I have justified by the expense? What is really useless, but I spend money or energy on out of habit? I need to look at this harder and be sure that it is worth it.

 

March 06

“In public avoid talking often and excessively about your accomplishments and dangers, for however much you enjoy recounting your dangers, it’s not so pleasant for others to hear about your affairs.”
—EPICTETUS, ENCHIRIDION, 33.14

I have been in combat, but I don’t talk much about it, most Marines who were with me are the same way. We would tell stories to each other, but not to others. I was on a trip with an army vet last week and he has also been through combat. We talked a little about the experience, but not in a detailed way. In contrast, I knew 2 Marines who were very proud of their combat experience and loved to talk about it. One was a Corporal(E-4) in Security Guard School that would tell the young Marines, fresh from Infantry school about how he had to shoot a kid, because the kid had an RPG. When we had Uniform inspections before graduation, this Corporal didn’t even have a Combat Action Ribbon. When I questioned him, he said he was just trying to teach the young Marines that combat was no joke. The next guy was a Staff Sergeant(E-6) while I was a Sergeant(E-5). He told everyone how he had been shot in the head, but his helmet had saved his life and then he led the counter attack. Nobody believed him, because he was useless. One day a Gunny Sgt(E-7) in a new class tore this Staff Sgt a new asshole for being a coward and a liar while they were in the same unit in Iraq. I never heard another word about combat from that Staff Sgt. Don’t be that guy.

 

Mar 07

  “Heraclitus called self-deception an awful disease and eyesight a lying sense.”
—DIOGENES LAERTIUS, LIVES OF THE EMINENT PHILOSOPHERS, 9.7

I try not to trust myself too much. Just because I want it to be true, doesn’t mean it is. Sometimes it is hard to convince myself that I have lied to myself, or that my memories are rose colored.

 

Mar 08

“If a person gave away your body to some passerby, you’d be furious. Yet you hand over your mind to anyone who comes along, so they may abuse you, leaving it disturbed and troubled—have you no shame in that?”
—EPICTETUS, ENCHIRIDION, 28

I have become very circumspect about who I spend time with and who I engage in conversations with. Years ago, this was not the case and I ended up in a few sketchy situations because I had crazy friends. Luckily I never ended up in jail, but there were a few close calls. Sometimes I think younger me was an entirely different person than who I am today, but that’s not true. Younger me was just careless about who he let influence him.

 

Mar 09

“Above all, keep a close watch on this—that you are never so tied to your former acquaintances and friends that you are pulled down to their level. If you don’t, you’ll be ruined. . . . You must choose whether to be loved by these friends and remain the same person, or to become a better person at the cost of those friends . . . if you try to have it both ways you will neither make progress nor keep
what you once had.”
—EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 4.2.1; 4–5

“From good people you’ll learn good, but if you mingle with the bad you’ll destroy such soul as you had.”
—MUSONIUS RUFUS, QUOTING THEOGNIS OF MEGARA, LECTURES, 11.53.21–22

This ties in with the previous day’s lesson. If I hadn’t gotten married so young(22) I very easily could have become a drug dealer or some other career with no future. Once I got married, I knew I had to straighten up and take care of my family. I still partied, but now with fellow carpenters that I respected and my wife’s family, not ones who would smoke a joint a lunch time.

 

Mar 10

“We can remove most sins if we have a witness standing by as we are about to go wrong. The soul should have someone it can respect, by whose example it can make its inner sanctum more inviolable. Happy is the person who can improve others, not only when present, but even when in their thoughts!”
—SENECA, MORAL LETTERS, 11.9

I use my wife for this purpose. If I am fighting with myself about doing what I am supposed to be doing, I ask myself “If she was here, what would you do?”, usually this gets me to do the right thing. Not always, but I am improving. I like the title of <em>The Practicing Stoic</em> because it serves as a reminder that I do not have it all figured out and am still “practicing” to improve my Stoic skills.

 

Mar 11

“The unrestricted person, who has in hand what they will in all events, is free. But anyone who can be restricted, coerced, or pushed into something against what they will is a slave.”
—EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 4.1.128b–129a

Very few people are truly free. I am mostly free, but my job “coerced” me into getting a jab. I will not be coerced into a booster. As I study and practice being a stoic, I have caught myself talking more at work against the COVID regime. I think this is not a coincidence. Whether or not this causes any negative repercussions, we will see, but I am more mentally prepared for that than I was last year.

 

This week the music will commemorate the Glib meetup at Gourmeltz on Feb 25th.

Rat, Fish, and Sheldon, it was nice to see you again.

I did not know this was a complete song.

It came on the TV and we all stopped talking for a bit.

Because they are not a one hit wonder.

Tonio, Tulip, and KK we wish you could have made it, we had a good time and EvilSheldon didn’t chastise me for open carrying my pistol. I will put up another one in May.