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The Daily Stoic

The Practicing Stoic

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How to Be a Stoic

I really liked this one, H/T mindyourbusiness:

The Stoic Challenge

Disclaimer: I’m not your Supervisor. These are my opinions after reading through these books a few times.

 

March 12

“Whenever someone has done wrong by you, immediately consider what notion of good or evil they had in doing it. For when you see that, you’ll feel compassion, instead of astonishment or rage. For you may yourself have the same notions of good and evil, or similar ones, in which case you’ll make an allowance for what they’ve done. But if you no longer hold the same notions, you’ll be more readily gracious for their error.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 7.26

I struggle with this one currently. When I look at all of the government officials who destroyed lives and denied medical services, along with people who cheer led and made excuses for them, it is hard to feel anything but rage. This is a reminder that the average person sees themselves as doing the best they can to fight a “pandemic” that the news has scared them into. That includes my mother, who really is smart enough to know better, but in conversation when I offered to send her what I was reading that convinced me it was all exaggerated, her response was, “no thanks, I’m pretty happy the way I am”. I will remember that she was trusting the experts and doing what she could to protect herself. This is not easy.

 

March 13

“Whenever you find yourself blaming providence, turn it around in your mind and you will see that what has happened is in keeping with reason.”
—EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 3.17.1

 

It is easy to feel wronged when things happen to me that I did not want to happen. When I had surgery and the subsequent infection, it was easy to say “why me?”. Not only was this minor compared to what other people have dealt with, what makes me so special that this thing which can happen to ANYONE, wouldn’t happen to me? If I can remember the world doesn’t care about me, either positively or negatively, then it will be much easier to retain perspective.

 

March 14

“Zeno would also say that nothing is more hostile to a firm grasp on knowledge than self-deception.”
—DIOGENES LAERTIUS, LIVES OF THE EMINENT PHILOSOPHERS, 7.23

It is important to be realistic about my shortcomings, this is difficult because I have a high opinion of myself. I don’t like to ask for help and this has bitten me a few times in my life. If I can not admit to myself I need help, then I will never improve and keep making the same mistakes in different areas.

 

March 15

“Were you to live three thousand years, or even a countless multiple of that, keep in mind that no one ever loses a life other than the one they are living, and no one ever lives a life other than the one
they are losing. The longest and the shortest life, then, amount to the same, for the present moment lasts the same for all and is all anyone possesses. No one can lose either the past or the future, for how can someone be deprived of what’s not theirs?”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 2.14

I will die someday, maybe soon. I will not be known past my great grand kids, if that far. I am not owed anymore than that and very easily could have been killed a few times in my younger years. I do not think I fear death, only the pain that usually comes with it. All I can do is live my life and understand these truths. My wife and kids know how I feel, so there will be no regrets there. I have told my wife if I die tomorrow, I have had the best life with her, so it is OK, I would rather have a short time with her than live to be 100 by myself.

 

March 16

“Hold sacred your capacity for understanding. For in it is all, that our ruling principle won’t allow anything to enter that is either inconsistent with nature or with the constitution of a logical creature. It’s what demands due diligence, care for others, and obedience to God.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 3.9

I do not let myself be ruled by emotion often. When I do, it’s usually anger. As long as I keep control of my thoughts , the anger stays away. When it does show up, it’s in a flash that shows up before I can counter it. I need to start anticipating these situations and ward them off before they become a problem.

 

March 17

“You are not your body and hair-style, but your capacity for choosing well. If your choices are beautiful, so too will you be.”
—EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 3.1.39b–40a

I am working hard to get back in shape. I also have long hair which I know is odd for a 50 year old man. These things are important to me. Why? I hate the feeling of being out of shape. I do not work out to impress other people and I do not let my running and gym time take over my life (much). As far as the hair, I am an 80’s metal head, and after 20 years in the Marines I missed having it. I am not perfect, this too is OK.

 

March 18

“Today I escaped from the crush of circumstances, or better put, I threw them out, for the crush wasn’t from outside me but in my own assumptions.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 9.13

I try not to let things outside of my control stress me out. If I am getting stressed because of an issue at work, I can take a few minutes to think about it and recenter myself. This will be tested on Friday, I have an appointment t the VA. Every time I put that stupid mask on I get irritated. Once I get irritated, I talk myself into anger. They think I have high blood pressure now. I do not have high blood pressure, except in there. I will listen to some relaxing music on the drive and try to ignore the stupidity of enforcing masks. I will also concentrate on the fact that no one makes me cover my nose. I am getting an elevated heartbeat typing about this. I need to remember, it is not the mask that pisses me off, it is my feelings about the mask and I have a choice in how I react. I will do my best to not let this affect me so much.

 

Today’s music is 80’s metal:

Dio

If you like Queensrÿche, Iron Maiden, Fates Warning and the like and have never heard of Crimson Glory you’re missing out.