Daily Stoic Week 39

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How to Be a Stoic

If you have anger issues,ย this oneย is a great tool (h/t mindyourbusiness)

October 1

โ€œDoes the light of a lamp shine and keep its glow until its fuel is spent? Why shouldnโ€™t your truth, justice, and self-control shine until you are extinguished?โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 12.15

How do I let my truth, justice, and self-control shine? I am not one for public displays to impress people. I do it more by just living according to my principles and the Stoic philosophy. If nobody notices, that’s fine, but I have had comments made to me that show others have noticed that I have managed to control my anger better as well as not allowing external forces to stress me out. My wife was impressed with my ability to remain calm while I was fighting with replacing the belt on my air compressor. I could not figure out how to move the electric motor enough to tighten the belt, make it straight and tighten the bolts all at the same time.I know in the past, I would have cursed or thrown a wrench, but this time, I was able to laugh every time it slipped and eventually got it in position without stress.

 

October 2

โ€œBut the wise person can lose nothing. Such a person has everything stored up for themselves, leaving nothing to Fortune, their own goods are held firm, bound in virtue, which requires nothing from chance, and therefore canโ€™t be either increased or diminished.โ€
โ€”SENECA, ON THE FIRMNESS OF THE WISE, 5.4

I try to live in this state of mind, but it is difficult. I think the only thing that could really devestate me would be if something happened to my wife. Other than her, everything I own is not vital to my life. I know this is easy to say when there are no threats to them, and I hope I can maintain that attitude if something does take some or all of my assets away from me.

 

October 3

โ€œMeditate often on the interconnectedness and mutual interdependence of all things in the universe. For in a sense, all things are mutually woven together and therefore have an affinity for each otherโ€”for one thing follows after another according to their tension of movement, their sympathetic stirrings, and the
unity of all substance.โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.38

This is a reminder that I am not designed to be by myself all the time. I went to visit my brother, he is still an active duty Marine. In my daily life, I don’t hang out with people, and my wife is the only person I really talk to. Outside of Glib meetups, usually when I do visit with other people, I get along with them, but I don’t really fit. It was nice to hang out and drink beer with my brother and his friends and we all got along great. It’s been years since I drank beer with other Marines. Makes me almost wish I had friends that lived closer to me.

 

October 4

โ€œThat which isnโ€™t good for the hive, isnโ€™t good for the bee.โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.54

This one makes me think of all the government responses to COVID and climate change that are neither good for the bee nor the hive. It is also not good for the community to have adults with kids not being parents and that has a detrimental effect on the children. It is also true that just because how I live my life works for me, it will not necessarily work for everyone.

 

October 5

โ€œBetter to trip with the feet than with the tongue.โ€
โ€”ZENO, QUOTED IN DIOGENES LAERTIUS, LIVES OF THE EMINENT PHILOSOPHERS, 7.1.26

I try not to say things I will regret. As long as I am in control of my emotions, this is not a problem. When I let my anger get too strong, it is easy to lash out. If I say something cruel, no matter how I try to atone, it was still said by me and may never be forgotten.

 

October 6

โ€œItโ€™s in keeping with Nature to show our friends affection and to celebrate their advancement, as if it were our very own. For if we donโ€™t do this, virtue, which is strengthened only by exercising our perceptions, will no longer endure in us.โ€
โ€”SENECA, MORAL LETTERS, 109.15

When I was active duty, trying to get promoted to E-7 in a job with 2 openings and 17 eligible people, a friend of mine got selected and I got passed over. In all honesty, he deserved it more than me, I was a very good Marine, but he was a phenomenal one. I congratulated him, and managed to be celebratory with him even though it hurt my feelings. A couple others we knew were not so gracious and unable to hide their jealousy and resentment. Acting like a child when someone you know does better than you definitely will not improve your circumstances and could cost you a friendship.

 

October 7

โ€œThe person who does wrong, does wrong to themselves. The unjust person is unjust to themselves โ€”making themselves evil.โ€
โ€”MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 9.4

Thieves and liars have been an anathema to me as long as I can remember. When I was younger, seeing how people reacted when they figured out my dad wasn’t trustworthy really stuck with me and gave me a desire to never be like that. Luckily all of my brothers seemed to have learned the same lesson. My wife says we all take after his father because he was a very upright person and I know he did not approve of my dad’s character. he has ruined his life through his actions and I am 100% sure that I will be remembered by my children much better than he is currently thought of by us.

 

Music is from one of my favorite singers, Ronnie James Dio. I saw him open for Iron Maiden in 2003. He put on a hell of a show.

 

This is technically a Black Sabbath song, but it is 100% Dio.

I love how calm he is when the fan crashes the stage at the beginning.

Another song that is not a Dio song, but really is.

 

This London concert from 2005 is outstanding, I might have watched it a few times.